We should all learn to enjoy talking to ourselves. In real life, no one can always be with us, so it is important to learn to comfort ourselves when facing difficulties.

We introduce to you 3 self-comfort methods to help you embrace and accept any problems in the workplace, relationships, or studies, learn and grow from them, and then step out of your comfort zone to become a better version of yourself.

Find time to be alone and practice gratitude

Modern people are not used to spending time alone (Me Time). They are full of busy life every day. Whether at home or outside, they are constantly receiving all kinds of information. Because of this, you and I need a quiet time to relax our body, mind and soul. Have a good time relaxing.

In the process of being alone, practice self-compassion and self-reflection. Through these actions, we are reminded to be grateful, embrace our own personality and seemingly “imperfect” appearance, and deeply understand that everyone is Unique, the definition of beauty cannot be judged by appearance alone.

According to research from the Department of Psychology at the University of California (UC), gratitude and compassion can not only increase happiness, but also help overcome obstacles and difficulties.

Answer inner doubts through meditation and mindfulness

In a person’s life, no matter how much material enjoyment we pursue, at a certain stage, we will gradually discover what is missing in life, and begin to ask ourselves about the meaning of life and the goal of life.

To answer philosophical questions such as this, you first need to understand who “you” are. When a person knows how to live his true self, he may have the answer in his heart, and meditation is a very effective method.

By imagining a relaxing picture in your mind, such as a sunset, a sea view, or a hug from your family, and then take a deep breath, put yourself in the scene while feeling the operation of your body, and then repeat several times.

In addition, mindfulness is also a good method. American health psychologist Darlene Mininni said that as long as you focus on one thing you are doing, it is mindfulness. It does not have to be meditation. But it is recommended to find a repetitive activity to do. For example, when washing dishes, you can focus on the sound of running water, and then ask yourself about your inner feelings. This will help you to notice the physical sensations.

If you want to challenge more difficult mindfulness, you can find a quiet place, eliminate all sources of interference, including TV, mobile phones, computers, music, and books, then close your eyes or look at a blank wall, and set a time to let your thoughts be free. Short. You can start with 5 minutes at the beginning and gradually increase the time. When you are stuck on a difficult problem and it is difficult to let go, you might as well extend the time point and ask yourself whether the current troubles will still cause problems in 1 year, 5 years, or even 10 years. Troubled by yourself?

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Hobbies and outdoor sports help detoxify the community​

Being alone is not the same as being lonely, because you can do what you like, and when we can enjoy our own interests, we can truly live our lives, such as listening to music and cooking.

In addition, in addition to indoor activities, it is also a good way to plan a light trip on the weekend, find a gourmet restaurant for a big meal, leisurely spend time in a cafe, walk to a nearby park, watch a movie, etc., the key is Let your life be full of expectations!

The first thing most people do now is no longer to brush their teeth and wash their face, but to scroll through their phones to catch up on news. Our lives have been “kidnapped” by social networks without even realizing it. This is not to say that technology is not good, but if you can occasionally detoxify in the community, go for a walk or exercise outdoors, even do LaLajin or join the ranks of volunteers, it can bring benefits to the body and mind.

Finally, a reminder that sometimes the above methods may not be able to quickly get rid of sadness and loneliness. Remember not to blame yourself for negative emotions, or feel that you must see the treatment effect immediately. The weather is ever-changing, and so are people’s moods. We may be happy or sad, but as long as we can admit our inner emotions frankly, we can learn about ourselves, learn and grow from them.